bummed.

ok, i need somewhere to do this, someone to tell this, and as i have seen over the past 2 weeks or so, we are like familly here.

shits going south..fast.

my girlfriend and i are done for good, after over a year and a half..i may only be 17..but it still stings a bit.

i cant ride my bike, its in pieces, and im having trouble coming up with the money to fix it, and thats my only stress reliever right now...my shoulder is going to need surgery real soon, there goes my riding season anyways. i used to take anti-depressants...but quit cause i felt like a loser for having to take a pill to get me through the day.


and right now, its one of those "whats the point" or "i dont wanna live" kinda moments...seriously..i go to school at 8..get out at 2.. go to work from 2-11. come home do some homework and go to bed. but tonight i just  gave up.

flame me if you must, but i needed somewhere to dump this..

Been there to an extent. It has to get bad before it can get good. I know it sounds like sh**, but its true.  As far as the bike goes, just take it as quick as it comes. I am one of those "everything happens for a reason" kind of people, so that is what it is to me. It may be a sign or calling persay. You never know. But something good will come out of it. But at 17, you will have more people to hand out with, and girls to be with. Dont wait around. Everything will come to you. I did, and now I am with the best person I could be with or ever ask to be with. It will all come to you man. As far as meds go, not all of them are wack. Some you need to take, no matter how you look at it. It may seem dumb to you, but they are there to help you when you need it man. I dont think anyone with flame, you, nor shoul dthey. Maybe some toughness from some, but everyone is here to help man, just take it easy. I just went through another knee surgery, a third one on that knee, it suck, but it had to be done, and now Im better.

Like I said everything happens for a reason.

Wait till you get out of highschool. I wonder every other day, "Is it really worth it?" Meh

I wish i had a fix all answer for ya JD, but i dont . Bout the only advice i can give ya is hang in there man, another girl will come along, and another riding season too.

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another girl will come along

The man needs to learn the truth.


Unless your a freaken model or drug girls...nm...Just dont move to Louisiana, the girls here a retards, eg. Britt Spears.

Keep lookin up man, I believe things happen for a reason.
 
There are many many nice girls out there, even if you have to go for a long time without finding one, don't give up. I'm 20 and never even dated yet, still looking for that special someone.
 
I know what you mean, not riding blows...But it'll all work out, keep your chin up. Nothing wrong with taking pills if they help, be thankful you live in a day where they have technology for things like that.
 

Keep ya head up man, you'll survive. I just got out of a 7 year relationship myself, I know how you feel. Just gotta find some things that make you happy and do em. Sounds like you're workin a lot so you'll be able to fix your bike up soon, just stay positive.

yeah man, hang on. i got to take pills every day, i have had those times where it seemed pointless to take um but TRUST me its totally worth it, i lost my fiancee about 2 1/2 years ago 6 weeks be for our wedding day, that hurt, but now i have a great girl and life is alot better then it was with the ex, riding will come it all ways does , trust that one, hang in there it will get better

Life will punch you in the neck on many occassions, and it's results may sting, but I have one thing to say to you: "YOU ARE SEVENTEEN"!  What you are feeling is no less valuable than what I feel, but the main difference is...YOU ARE SEVENTEEN.  You have so much life ahead of you at this point.  You can still be a fireman, a veterinarian, or an astronaut.  Now, go kick ass.  We all have potential, but it is what you do with that potential that decides your ultimate fate...   

  I know this guy.........hes a quite dude who works with me.  Long story short, hes the most smiling, positive guy I know, never has a complaint, always looks forward to waking up another day and so on.    I see him with this pimped out low-rider, hes a mexican dude, older, classy, and the car fits, it's an older chevy, and I see some painting on the rear trunk lid of some Mexican family.......I ask my buddy I'm walking with about it and he has known the guy for some time, and he explains, Tommy, the older cool dude.....lost all three boys, one to a drunk driver, one to gang violence and another in a motorcycle crash, a few months later loast his wife to cancer, and all this within a year or so.   I think to myself that this dude had the whole world and then some just shit on him and it is beyond me how he can be the coolest dude you'd ever met and maintain a positive attitiude.  I wish I could wake up every day gratefull for anything like that guy.  Dude, your 17, sometimes the dice don't go your way and you crap out, sometimes you throw a good hand and your on top.  Nothing wrong with two steps forward and one step back, keep focused, have a plan, and work towards it.  Attitude is a small thing that makes a big difference.  All in all, theres gonna be many experiences you'll have that you'll look back on and laugh, others not so much, some more than others, but that shits gonna happen your whole life, I don't care how much money your gonna have, those guys got issues too, and they're no happier than you or me, it's how you live and what you make of it.  As for the chick, man if I had a nickle for every chick that broke my heart and made me loose sleep I'd be one of those rich guys with the problems.  Sometime I'll tell you about that chick in thailand that asked me "paper or plastic"....now that was a heart breaker.........

Jason, losing someone you love or care about hurts just as much at 17 as it does at 30, just because you're young don't minimise it, you're entitled to hurt and let it out...you WILL get better, please trust me on this...I know it seems like everything is against you just now but it's not Jason....it's the mind playing tricks on you...one thing you must continue to do is to eat as best as you can, I know you hardly feel like eating when hurting but you have to and drink plenty of water, rest when you can and don't beat yourself up over anything...it's just life Jason, you're young and have so many things and life experiences ahead of you...be gentle with yourself, chill, go for walks and heal...ok?

It's really going to be fine! :-)


Jules X

PS If you need to talk please feel free to PM me, please don't get too down...  :-)

In the very old childrens book "the little engine that could", the goal was to have tommy believe in himself enough to get over the mountain.  This was for children.

In Algebra, the goal is to turn every negative into a positive.  This is for young adults.

In middle maturity, life gives you credit and responsibility.  As you grow, obstacles will always be there, and your mission is to determine how either to overcome them or find how to salvage situations.

In mid life crisis, we (speaking from experience) tend to let life come to us in hopes that our beliefs of past are our precursor to our old age.  And if they don't we take life by the horns and are more progmatic toward meeting our goals.

At old age, you reflect on your life.  But all that make it to old age, have given themselves the opportunity to at least look back.  Give yourself the chance to lookback.

JD,
 
It will get better and worse. I think we all hit stages in life of "Why" and get overwhelmed and nothing goes right. It will get better only if you want it too.
 
Hell Im 39 and were in the same boat. I own my own company work 12 to 15 hrs a day have a 1967 Firebird with a built 327 ready for a transplant ( I soooo want to drive it) but Im saving for parts and needing time that I don't have to complete it. The wife gets mad cause I walk in the garage and I say stupid stuff like "Im just going to sell the piece of shit cause its never going to run" out of frustration. Sure I could drop in the motor and drive it but thats not what I have planned and If piece it together thats all it is a piece. So I will wait to do it right.
 
As for the girl I still think about my first love to this day.
 
Keep your head up....

If you can stay off the anti depressants that's good...I don't like their use in one so young...

Jules

Keep your head up bro.  After 4 years of living together mine gf walked out this past July.  Was like standing on train tracks with a train coming full speed ahead.  I'd like to tell you it won't hurt, but that would be a lie.  Shit happens, and you have to deal with it.  That is what life is all about, and unfortunately, as you now know, this is one of lifes experiences.  This girl, I worked two jobs, 60+ hours a week and she didn't even work half of that time.  This girl WAS my life.  Everything I did, I did to make sure she was happy and had what she needed.  Now, I have a new life that doesn't involve her.  Would that of been my choice?  No, absoultely not, but that was the hand I was dealt.  In the end, we have all been there one point or another, but you just have to stick it out.  You don't get anywhere in life without some hardwork and determination (well, some people do, but they are typically stuck up spoiled and handed everything in life, they will end up feeling of a lack of accomplishment).  Even still right now, I'm alone, I work full time, go to school fulltime, and do almost nothing every day.  Life is monotonous and boring sometimes, and when you don't think you can get any lower, as voodoo would say, you get punched in the neck again.  Just hang in there and things will get better after you get where you are going.  Also, don't go looking for another girl, when the time is right, she will come to you.

For what it's worth...I'd stick my soul in a handbasket to hell...to be 17 again...lol


Jules

Think of this person:  The person who doesn't even have a bike, hasn't had the joy of being in love with his girlfriend, isn't in school, and doesn't have a job.  That person may be down I would imagine.
 
You, you don't have it so bad ya' know!
 
I praise you for turning away from those damn meds.  One of my kids (I'm a youth counselor) has a prescription for some "A.D.D." drug.  He doesn't take it and his mom doesn't even know.  She thinks the drug is helping.  He made a consious decision to put "mind over matter" and control himself, rather than letting some f'ing doctor control him.  So good for you on that one!
 
You're young, you already know that, what you may not feel though, is that you're going to bounce back.  Things like this time in your life make you better and stronger as you mature.  You will appreciate when you find the right woman.  It may be in college, or at work.  You will be glad you stayed in school and have a good work ethic, because it will get you a good job.  I good job means a working bike!  I beleive God has picked you to be a successful, happy adult in the near future and this is why you're going through all this right now.  It's kind of a test, if you will.  Keep your head up, pass the test and you will be rewarded.

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For what it's worth...I'd stick my soul in a handbasket to hell...to be 17 again...lol


Jules

Hell, I'm only 22 and I know what you mean.

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Think of this person:  The person who doesn't even have a bike, hasn't had the joy of being in love with his girlfriend, isn't in school, and doesn't have a job.  That person may be down I would imagine.

You, you don't have it so bad ya' know!

I praise you for turning away from those damn meds.  One of my kids (I'm a youth counselor) has a prescription for some "A.D.D." drug.  He doesn't take it and his mom doesn't even know.  She thinks the drug is helping.  He made a consious decision to put "mind over matter" and control himself, rather than letting some f'ing doctor control him.  So good for you on that one!

You're young, you already know that, what you may not feel though, is that you're going to bounce back.  Things like this time in your life make you better and stronger as you mature.  You will appreciate when you find the right woman.  It may be in college, or at work.  You will be glad you stayed in school and have a good work ethic, because it will get you a good job.  I good job means a working bike!  I beleive God has picked you to be a successful, happy adult in the near future and this is why you're going through all this right now.  It's kind of a test, if you will.  Keep your head up, pass the test and you will be rewarded.

Excellent advice :-)...also if you pull yourself back up without the pills you truly will be just that much better and stronger...

Jules

First of all you have been offered some good advice by decent people here. Most of it has been on the low road, let's talk about the high road for a moment. There are young men and women. Just a few years older than you waking up around the world with the same problem. Relatively speaking, but maybe with an added twist. They have been just physically injured themselves are lost the life of someone then grown to know and or care about. Yes, I'm speaking of those serving in the military No they're no better than you are, but the biggest difference between you and them is that they have realized that all things change. And that they will get past this point in their life they draw strength from those around them. As you are trying to do yourself here. They also have been at some point told by others like myself that this is a small part of what hopefully is a long and productive life and to keep that in perspective. Something you should also try to do once you have come to grips with your situation . Take a look at the events that led up to the situation, whether they are circumstances beyond your control or a cause and effect situation, whatever it is. Remember how you got here, and how you got past it. Later in life. When problems like this arise, you will draw upon your experiences in life, this being one of them to help you work your way through whatever is happening at that time. Shocktroop spoke of mental attitude being a very important thing for sure he's pulling that from life experiences with Fleet Marines, as well as personal experience and make no mistakes your mental attitude can and will break you. You must find something positive at this point to focus on and set down a game plan with small goals to reach with ultimately, a large one to be accomplished no different than a combat tactic called cutting or slicing the pie
I have spent the last part of my career mentoring to young Marines and if I truly thought you were suicidal. I would be hammering something like this out. I happened upon this person, late one night waiting for a flight whose displayed name was. ""Kill me now"" and have stayed in contact with her ever since. I'm happy to say, she just started her last year in college and is physically and mentally well

Little sister understand what you're saying. I have suffered great hardships in my life have lost my way many times on the path of life. I have prayed for death, and have prayed for the strength to kill those who have offended , wrong me or others. I can say nothing profound that you have probably not heard before in life. Like ''life is what you make it''. I have traveled far from my birth hood, and achieved the pinnacle of success within my own particular chosen field, only to have it snatched from me before I truly could begin to enjoy it. Lying in my hospital bed. I first prayed for death then that inner Corps strength began to say to me. Why should you help those who wish to destroy you. You must fight, if nothing else to spite them. Even when your body fails you, even when those around you have no hope. Even when those who surround you are like anchors lashed to your body in deep water. You must endeavor to persevere on, you sound nothing like a Quicker, little sister I did not know you, but I hear you. And I have fallen many times have at times ran headlong into open fire, hoping to die over something that happened far away, that I had no control over but of course it set my world upside down. It was only lying in a hospital bed. I realized that there are many things beyond my control. There were things that were important to me. They Were My Family. My Friends, My Brothers Arms and My Own Life

Now My Little Sister, please put those thoughts away. I don't even know you, but I do care whether or not. You take another breath. I have paid a heavy pric