Driving while upset

I been seeing this women for a while now, she has 2 kids. I've been literally doing everything i can to help them, be there for her, be a good guy, whatever. I changed my life to revolve around her.  She gets hammered last nite while im sober driver and man things got nasty.... I'm not even sure what or how it happened but were not together now. I got her a baby sitter for the night and we went out, i stayed sober to drive her around places while she drank and had a good time. We end up in some house with no girls but her, just a bunch of dudes drunk as piss. I didn't want to be there and asked if we could leave, she was adament on staying there with or without me.  I'm no hater so i told her to go with this other guy that she was clearly attracted to. I called a taxi and that was that. It's sickening how you can offer someone the world, but some drunk joblo off the street with no job, no cars, no house, no nothing to offer can smooth talk a girl into believing he is king. She might realize it today when she's sober, she might not.  I'm not the type to fuss over a girl, so i let her go as fast as i took her in months ago.

I'm really sad, couldnt sleep all night. I figured i would go for a ride and maybe make me feel better.

What a horrible idea. I say horrible i mean like... wtf was i thinking horrible.

I don't know. I ended up up on the interstate just fcuking rippin on it like is no tommorow. I passed a cop, did some stupid things, endangered a lot of people. I feel worse now, i had to head home when i realized what i was doing. The way i was driving.

Don't ride mad or upset. It's really hard to ride safe, its easy to get caught up in it and forget what your doing.

I know nobody on this site knows me, i know no one cares. Don't reply if you don't want, i'm just having a really tough day and getting on my bike almost made it worse.

I guess im happy to be alive, but still sad about loosing someone i cared about, and her kids. Man her daughter was so nice. I wish the best for them.

I dunno why, but i have to tell someone, even if its people i don't know. I've had long term relationships, but they never hurt like this. Maybe it was the kids i was getting attatched too, maybe she's not what i thought she was, i don't know.  ill stop babbling to myself

Just ride safe guys, be man enough to know when you shouldn't ride.

peace out

Riding distracted is always a bad idea. Sorry to hear things are going bad but to be honest it's only a matter of time in 99.9% of relationships.

Sorry about the women troubles.  It's amazing how they can take all the wind out of you.  Anyway, I'm glad you came to your senses and decided to go home.  Being angry/sad/tired when you ride is a recipe for disaster.  Give yourself a little time, and you'll begin to feel better...I'm sure it is lost on you right now.  Take it easy, Fuze

Dude sorry to hear bout the woman troubles. I ve been there with gettin mad an leavin. In fact I still do it, in my truck thou. Dont get all crazy speeding thou, biggest deal with that thou is riskin ya life for some bitch who doesnt give two shits bout herself much less you. Dont do that shit again man, chicks arent worth it.

thankfully you realized what your were doing and went home, ................and not to the taco bell drive thru but thats another story.
 
as for the chick, there is a reason she's in her current state in life, and nothing you can do can fix it.  she will just take and take and take.  you will be breathing a big sigh of relief in a little bit when you realized that got out of that one before she completely ripped your heart out and you lost everything you had.
 
do not pick up the phone today when she calls.  period.   
 
dont do it.

how old is this chick?

im glad that you realized what a bad idea it was to be out riding before anything happened to you...ive been there too bro, i'd be lying if i were to say ive never gone riding while i was pissed at a girl, it is a bad idea, and im thankful that me and you are still around to realize it

that goes to show ya, you can't turn a ho into a housewife.

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ORIGINAL: fuze

I been seeing this women for a while now, she has 2 kids. I've been literally doing everything i can to help them, be there for her, be a good guy, whatever. I changed my life to revolve around her.  She gets hammered last nite while im sober driver and man things got nasty.... I'm not even sure what or how it happened but were not together now. I got her a baby sitter for the night and we went out, i stayed sober to drive her around places while she drank and had a good time. We end up in some house with no girls but her, just a bunch of dudes drunk as piss. I didn't want to be there and asked if we could leave, she was adament on staying there with or without me.  I'm no hater so i told her to go with this other guy that she was clearly attracted to. I called a taxi and that was that. It's sickening how you can offer someone the world, but some drunk joblo off the street with no job, no cars, no house, no nothing to offer can smooth talk a girl into believing he is king. She might realize it today when she's sober, she might not.  I'm not the type to fuss over a girl, so i let her go as fast as i took her in months ago.

I'm really sad, couldnt sleep all night. I figured i would go for a ride and maybe make me feel better.

What a horrible idea. I say horrible i mean like... wtf was i thinking horrible.

I don't know. I ended up up on the interstate just fcuking rippin on it like is no tommorow. I passed a cop, did some stupid things, endangered a lot of people. I feel worse now, i had to head home when i realized what i was doing. The way i was driving.

Don't ride mad or upset. It's really hard to ride safe, its easy to get caught up in it and forget what your doing.

I know nobody on this site knows me, i know no one cares. Don't reply if you don't want, i'm just having a really tough day and getting on my bike almost made it worse.

I guess im happy to be alive, but still sad about loosing someone i cared about, and her kids. Man her daughter was so nice. I wish the best for them.

I dunno why, but i have to tell someone, even if its people i don't know. I've had long term relationships, but they never hurt like this. Maybe it was the kids i was getting attatched too, maybe she's not what i thought she was, i don't know.  ill stop babbling to myself

Just ride safe guys, be man enough to know when you shouldn't ride.

peace out

i am sorry to hear-well,women problems!!-some of them will hand your ass to you for no logical
reason what-so-ever,if you stick you neck out on a chopping block some women will slice right-on
through with out a second thought
my advise to you is-go about your business as though nothing ever happened,keep your chin up
dump her and move on!!!(the truth will come out!!)
you are right-do not ride while emotional!!(about anything!)
good luck
o8
 

Really sorry that you are having a hard time,
but am glad you still had the pressence of mind to realize you were in no condition to ride, and called "Knock It Off" before you went too far.
 
You might draw a paralel from your ride, to the situation you are right now with this girl. You are along for the ride, on a bad situation, and have just realized that taking this ride is not in your best interest. Just like you did with the Bike ride last night, realize it's time to hoist the BS flag on this relationship, and call the KIO. go home, and take care of yourself for a while.
 
 

THANK YOU

It's done now. I made her come take all her stuff, wished her the best of luck with her life and let it rest at that.  It's weird how a stranger can give solid advice, really put things into perspective. Because it's hard to think right sometimes, when emotions are involved.

I think i will do just that Whitedealershiprice, take it easy for a few days and collect myself. Thanks guys.

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ORIGINAL: fuze

THANK YOU

It's done now. I made her come take all her stuff, wished her the best of luck with her life and let it rest at that.  It's weird how a stranger can give solid advice, really put things into perspective. Because it's hard to think right sometimes, when emotions are involved.

I think i will do just that Whitedealershiprice, take it easy for a few days and collect myself. Thanks guys.

 
 

mmm hmmm...i feel for ya. but once u start offering everything under the sun and being a nice guy chicks lose interest brother. they want someone with balls (no offense).  im guessing you got away from the fuzz, thats always good.  but never ever let some girl have such a great effect on you that youre willing to do some dumb shit and not care what the outcome is.


now go  find some strange

F##k her and glad you got off the bike we don't need any more dead rides!  And there a girl just right for you just keep looking you sound like a decent guy you'll find her!

Sorry to hear about that, but sounds like you did the right thing. I may be a bit younger than most of you, but I know how crappy that stuff can be. I had a similar drunken end to my last relationship. It was all bad and nothing really seemed to go right. I spent a week or two being pissed off and sad, but eventually got over it. Definitely good advice to not ride while in that state.

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ORIGINAL: JZHALES

now go  find some strange

 
 
Oh man, too funny JZ!
 
Fuze, I'm not going to get too deep on this post  -- just glad you came to your senses after your ride.  Keep your chin up, there's 6 billion people on this planet, so you've got about 3 billion other women to check out.  

Mourning/being piss over a girl is the worst thing to do.   Also sounds like she doesn't want to be a mother.   Guess what.   When you have kids you dont go and get piss drunk.  Thats part of the having kids.   NO FUN!!    God it irritates the hell ouf of me when people with kids piss and moan about never being able to do "fun" stuff.   Well, dont have kids when you're in your 20's.   Durrrrrrr.   Enjoy life and when you finally slow down, then have kids.


Ok that may have gotten kinda off topic but it kinda goes with it. 

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ORIGINAL: JZHALES

mmm hmmm...i feel for ya. but once u start offering everything under the sun and being a nice guy chicks lose interest brother. they want someone with balls (no offense).  im guessing you got away from the fuzz, thats always good.  but never ever let some girl have such a great effect on you that youre willing to do some dumb shit and not care what the outcome is.


now go  find some strange

JZ hit the nail on the head with that one. Not to insult you, but there is absolutely no reason why you should be carting her ass around while she gets drunk, that is what her girlfriends are for. You should have been at the strip club with your boys. Glad to hear you're safe though.

I may sound like a prick but I don't offer or go out of my way for my wife..... never have...its simple she loves me for who I am. I don't candy coat anything I don't beg I don't have to say I'm sorry.... we don't argue because we have nothing to argue about. she is the only woman I have ever been myself around and didn't go all out for..... and she is the only woman I didn't stress about and get jealous over..... get the point... it takes a while but when you can find a woman that you can just be yourself around and never wonder or worry... it just falls together. sorry bro hope you get over her and find the right one someday.
 
and to quote Bill Murray "dont drive angry" Ground hog day....

Sorry to hear what happened man.  Shitty deal.  I've never been there, but I bet it's really tough if you get attached to the kids. 
 
She made her nest, now she'll have to sleep in it.  No sense in risking your own life by riding aggressively over her, but you've already come to that conclusion and I'm glad.  If that's the way she's going to be, you've definitely made the smart choice by moving on.  Her loss and her kids' loss becuase of her (they may get mad at her for it too if they were attached to you).  Send the kids a card on a holiday or something sometime. 
 
Sounds to me like you're handling it very well and maturely.  You'll find someone else, you're a guy who rides a motorcycle!  
 
BTW, I saw a very large group of sport bikes riding on 33 headed west on the east side of 29. I thought I saw someone with gear similar to what you have in your Av (that's you isn't it?).  You wouldn't have happened to be in the group would you?  There were so many bikes I don't remember which one I saw the gear on.

I know what you mean man. I'm going through so serious stuff right now that I won't get into, but let's just say my world is being turned upseide down very quickly.

I went out for a ride yesterday, roads I take all the time, but I was upset and my judgment was clouded. Before I knew it I was going way to fast. I got frustrated at the 2 cars in front of me, so i passed them on a double line, next thing I know a truck crests the hill coming straight at me, had he not applied his brakes i would have hit him head on. To make matters worse, I was going so fast at the time, I barley was able to make the tunr after the hill, I drifted into the other lane. To make matters even worse there was a stop sign right after the turn, and I ended up flying through it at 70.

Needless to say I pulled over about a mile down the road, white knuckled and almost dead from shock, I got off the bike and took about 20 mintues to calm down.

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ORIGINAL: K0NPHL1C7

 I got frustrated at the 2 cars in front of me, so i passed them on a double line, next thing I know a truck crests the hill coming straight at me, had he not applied his brakes i would have hit him head on. To make matters worse, I was going so fast at the time, I barley was able to make the tunr after the hill, I drifted into the other lane.

its fun aint it?

its funny how the real person tends to come out while drinking. man i know the short term sucks, but in the long run your WAY better off. lay low for a few days, have some fun with some buddies, and forget her. it sounds like she was just starting to leech off you as much as she could.


konflict - good move on hopping off and calming down. never ride pissed, its just not smart. glad your still with us man. that coulda been very bad.

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ORIGINAL: JZHALES

mmm hmmm...i feel for ya. but once u start offering everything under the sun and being a nice guy chicks lose interest brother. they want someone with balls (no offense).  im guessing you got away from the fuzz, thats always good.  but never ever let some girl have such a great effect on you that youre willing to do some dumb shit and not care what the outcome is.


now go  find some strange

 
+10000.  Never ever ever ever let them have everything.  U shoulda kicked that biatch in the baby-maker imho.  Like hales said, get some strange, its really the only way to get over another chick.

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ORIGINAL: fuze

I been seeing this women for a while now, she has 2 kids. I've been literally doing everything i can to help them, be there for her, be a good guy, whatever. I changed my life to revolve around her.  She gets hammered last nite while im sober driver and man things got nasty.... I'm not even sure what or how it happened but were not together now. I got her a baby sitter for the night and we went out, i stayed sober to drive her around places while she drank and had a good time. We end up in some house with no girls but her, just a bunch of dudes drunk as piss. I didn't want to be there and asked if we could leave, she was adament on staying there with or without me.  I'm no hater so i told her to go with this other guy that she was clearly attracted to. I called a taxi and that was that. It's sickening how you can offer someone the world, but some drunk joblo off the street with no job, no cars, no house, no nothing to offer can smooth talk a girl into believing he is king. She might realize it today when she's sober, she might not.  I'm not the type to fuss over a girl, so i let her go as fast as i took her in months ago.

I'm really sad, couldnt sleep all night. I figured i would go for a ride and maybe make me feel better.

What a horrible idea. I say horrible i mean like... wtf was i thinking horrible.

I don't know. I ended up up on the interstate just fcuking rippin on it like is no tommorow. I passed a cop, did some stupid things, endangered a lot of people. I feel worse now, i had to head home when i realized what i was doing. The way i was driving.

Don't ride mad or upset. It's really hard to ride safe, its easy to get caught up in it and forget what your doing.

I know nobody on this site knows me, i know no one cares. Don't reply if you don't want, i'm just having a really tough day and getting on my bike almost made it worse.

I guess im happy to be alive, but still sad about loosing someone i cared about, and her kids. Man her daughter was so nice. I wish the best for them.

I dunno why, but i have to tell someone, even if its people i don't know. I've had long term relationships, but they never hurt like this. Maybe it was the kids i was getting attatched too, maybe she's not what i thought she was, i don't know.  ill stop babbling to myself

Just ride safe guys, be man enough to know when you shouldn't ride.

peace out

 
Well, first I'd like to say that you didn't get yourself, another motorist, or police officer killed. It seems like you realized that maybe its not a great idea to go riding if you're not 100% focused on the task at hand. I think you'll find most of us, including myself, sympathetic to what you are going through but if you had hurt or killed someone..a jury making a decision on whether or not to convict you on vehicular manslaughter charges could care less.
 
As far as your woman situation I know what you're going through. Been there, done that and hopefully never again. One thing I've learned in my short 30 years is that you can't fix people that are broken or inherently flawed. Being the knight in shining armor might make you feel good but all you're doing is enabling her self-destructive behavior. Leave her and find someone that isnt damaged goods. By making the same choices in women you'll only end up hurting yourself in the long run.