i have cried and cried but it dosent take the pain away

you can punch me in the face in a bar fight. you can break my wrist in a motorcycle accident. you can even hit me in the eye with a .357 and you wont get any tears from this guy. but to see the love of your in restraints so she doesnt hurt her self because she has put up with so many years of an abusive family, that just brought me to tears today. and then its a whole other subject when the hospital transports her somewhere that will only let you see her from 5:30pm-7:00pm on the week days. it hurts a lot guys especially being that the only reason i moved out here is her. but what pisses me the f*** off is that there is no support from her family because she is with me and i am a different race. does color really matter that much. i mean if i kept a guy away from my daughter it damn sure wouldnt be because of his color it would be because he's a dic*. well sorry for venting on you guys but i have no one out here and the person i do have is unavailable to me because it's not the "proper visiting hours". thanks for listening guys and gals.

I feel for you man. Nothing sucks more than watching a loved one in pain and there is nothing you can do about it.
 
Hang in there man! Don't let the family BS get to you. The most important thing is that you are there for your girl.

Sorry to hear whats going on. It is still too bad that people put alot into a persons color, but if she came from an abusive family it really isnt much of a surprise. It seems as though you are her family so try to support her as much as possible, as well as possibly having your family do the same. Show her she is loved by family.

dude i have been with her every waking moment since this whole episode started. her family hasnt shown up yet and the f**king new hospital wouldnt let me see her tonight. dude it sucks so bad to have someone you come home to every night just taken away and out of your arms.

yeah all of my family have started making arrangements to fly and drive out from vegas...... this fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu**ing suuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuucks

How old are you Rider? With reading this the best thing I can say do is if yall want to be together without the family butting in have to distance yourself from them.So if your set up for it I think you guys should move or something man, kno it sucks that your forced away but shit man if she is in this state of mind due to the family then might be then only way to keep you both sane and healthy. Good luck dude, God Bless!

bro i'm 31 and thats what i mean it's not like i'm 19 and have puppy love. this woman and i have been thru so much together. it is a not under her parents roof they just have some kind of hold over they're offspring. her brother is freakin 31 and living with them like he is still in high school. not like he went out and tested life and it sat him on his ass for a minute. but like never stopped playing nintendo to go out and try the real (nothing against nintendo). we live together, nothing spectacular but we are (were).... making it on our own in l.a. but every now and again she goes back hoping that things have changed since she has been "dis owned". and the last time her mom slapped her was the straw that broke the camels back. god says you shouldnt hate but i am having a really hard time turning my cheek on this one. i just want to blow something up

Well dude she just has to get away from em. I kno it sucks to say but that family just seems joined by blood and not any love. You dont strike folks you love, you dont "dis-own" folks you care for. She has to come to terms with that and yall do what yall got to do on your own. I went throu somethings like that with my grandfather (know thats slightly differant) but I look at it like this he doesnt pay my bills, and doesnt do anything for me (mentally, physically, spiritually, whatever) so just got to forget bout him unless he comes around. Got to distance yourself from what causes the pain ya kno. Like when you say "it hurts when I do this", And someone else tells ya "well dont do that" seems kinda corny then but really good advice.

yeah no doubt. kind of sad that after a year and a half you go to see someone you love (cause thats what you've been brain washed to think that family is) and the exchange is "i love you mom......slap!!!"  and dont worry she has distance from everything now except from 5:30pm-7:00pm. bro this is bs.....really man. this is f***ked up. she is the sweetest thing alive and because of someone else she is stuck in there bro. it should be them

my best friend in the world (Shawn) is bi-polar. He's been in the hospital more times then I can count. Sometimes when I try to see him during visiting hours, he doesn't want me to and the hospital throws me out the door. It hurts a lot, and I can relate in a way, but it hurts probably about a fraction as much as what you're going thru.

Sorry man... sounds like a sh1tty quarter-life crisis. We all get em. You'll make it thru man... We'll be here for ya.

thanks bro it really means a lot to me man. my home is so empty right now and i dont even know what to do with myself. it is so crazy how she just snapped. she's not even the same person bro. i feel so guilty cause the first couple of hours i thought it was a joke or a game that i was playing along with. she still responds to me but the things that come out of her mouth.........it just hurts to see her in this condition and it's kind of selfish but i dont want her to forget who i am. even still nothing makes the pain go away

Rider, I have a good idea what you are going through.  I loved a girl a few years back that started by cheating on me and then tried to take her life in front of me.  The entire episode lasted for months and I was a ****ing trainwreck, so if you ever need to talk whether it be via email or even over the phone, I would try to help in any way possible.  Hang in there bro.

thanks bro and sorry to hear that. i think contact is good at this point i wish i could go for a fuc*ing ride and just let the wind take some of the weight off of my shoulders

Venting and having good listeners in my life was the only thing that pulled me through it...so get out whatever you need to get out cause it really does help.

bro i feel you on tis one. i'm bi-polar, i have been dealing with it for years, my ex( who i loved with all my heart) had me comitted, saying i was a danger to myself, which was bull, it was a smoke screen for her to take my son and run off with a dead beat, so i haven't seen my son in about 2 years, it hurts, so i feel your pain man, it will work out i promise, keep being there for hr no matter what and it will get better.

thanks bro and i'm sorry you have to deal with that too. and thanks to you too shoort buss. i actually rushed to the hospital and tried to stop them from transporting her. i dont know if it was selfish or not but i dont care i just dont want her to be in a position for someone to be able to hurt her.  with the visiting hours, thats a lot of time behind closed doors and i just dont want her abused anymore

dude i really want to take actions that i cant put in text on the forums. i am really having a hard time coping

James, I am so dreadfully sorry to hear of your plight ... all we can offer is to say hang in there ... it will work out, please believe that :-) ... forget the family just think about her...it's her spirit that is suffering right now over this and she will need to know how much she is truly loved by you ... hold her and tell her how much you love her, reasure her and don't let her see your fears ... let her see you as strong and she will be stronger too... this will work out, but you have to be the strong one James ...

Jules X

thank you all. it's so good to have someone to talk to right now

James, if you need to talk then don't hesitate ... when you visit her just make sure she knows how much you care and be outwardly calm ... she will pick up on this and it will help, trust me :-)

Jules X

thats what i tried to do today and it ended up in my speed walking and flailling down the hall way, but i get you she didnt see it. thanks again so much and i will keep it in.

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thats what i tried to do today and it ended up in my speed walking and flailling down the hall way, but i get you she didnt see it. thanks again so much and i will keep it in.

That's the spirit :-) ...don't let her see what it's doing to you ... then her energies can heal her better, knowing you are there and Love her ...

Jules

theres no other way failure is not an option

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theres no other way failure is not an option

You are getting so good at this James :-) ...

Jules

One of the worse things that exists in the family unit is manipulation. It's very scarring for her to be ignored and unloved by her mother. Ignorance and intolerance.

It is important to have a healthy relationship with your family...even if healthy means keeping away from them.