Motorcycle Killer

Why is it when a girl gets real interested in you, she wants you to get rid of your bike??? This has happened to a few of my friends. And now is starting to happen to me. There is no way in hell I'm going to stop riding because of this. I call them "Motorcycle Killers". I know there are some women who don't care, and my GF's always say they don't mind... but later it's brought-up like "It's the Bike or Me" shit. I guess it's going to be the bike for now. I'm not whipped!

haha i hear you man, my girl didnt want to ride with me for a long time but then she got fed up with me going riding without her all the time so she has started to ride more and more as of late, shes started to come around and sometimes even asks if were gonna go ride bc she wants to go, sorry if im rubbing it in, just thought id show my situation, gl with your chick!

A good woman wouldn't make you choose and would get into your hobby to do something with you.

Another reason I love my GF so. She supports my addiction(s) lol

Man, this brings back memmories.  Sorry man, hang in there.  Lucky for me my girlfriend loves my bike.  She isn't interested in riding on it with me, she just likes it because I like it so much.

If she ever get's to the point of telling you "Its the bike or me" Just let her know that she is cheapening the relationship to use it as a bargaining chip to get you to do what she wants you to do. And that you tought your relationship was worth more than that.
 
If she really loves you she wouldn't give you an ultimatum over something as (relatively) frivolous as that.  

I can see a significant other being worried to some extent becuase of how dangerous the sport can be, but trying to tell you out right to sell the bike or loss them is really selfish in my opinion

For a girl's view...I have to agree that as much as concern for your safety is understood, making you choose isn't right.  It's healthy to have your own hobbies.  Ideally she'll appreciate and maybe wanna ride herself... If she does not and continues to give you an ultimatum, might be time to find someone that will love you for you, or maybe even someone that loves riding already!

I didnt ask her advice at all. I took the motorcycle course with friends, passed the course and bought a bike with insurance all done in a week. My gf tried to stop me riding bike few times but I stood really strong. Now, she gaveup asking me stop riding my bike and she said she will take the motorcycle course for me.

i'd just say " dont let the door hit ya on the way out !" sorry . bikes are my passion . if you cant understand that then you dont understand me ! see ya . thats how i am . but you have to make the effort to get them in to it .. try and take them for a couple of good rides ( nothing to twisty just some good back roads that really show the good side of riding ) and then maybe you can get her in to riding her own bike . theres nothing hotter then a chick on a bike :) ... 

I broke up with a woman over something similar. I was dropping a new engine into my car (because it was the only car I had, therefore I had to fix it). Anyway, I had to drop in the new motor (and that doesn't take hours, it takes days). So, I'm working on it for about a week, and was just about done. She came over one night, furious at something (probably talked to her b***hes she calls her "friends") and pulls the "It's me or the car." Now, .........I HATE drama, and people who cause it, ESPECIALLY when it's over something as stupid as me fixing my car so I can get to work and back without bumming rides.

So, I calmly said "I don't have time for this right now, I really have to get my car fixed, and I work in the morning." and then she bursts out in tears, accusing me of loving my car more than her. (even though I explained that it was my ONLY transportation at the time and I NEEDED to fix it so I would have a car for work/school/etc.) As she stood there, shouting and crying like a little 10-year old (she was 21, so was I).......I just looked at her with a disgusted look on my face, not even trying to comfort her. I explained to her again why I was fixing my car...........this only made things worse.

All this happened on a freezing December evening (cold as f**k), so I asked her to leave (with her b***h friends waiting in her car) so I could close the garage door and get back to what I was doing. Her reply........"Fine! I'm dumping you anyway!" And my reply........."I'm not the one crying, am I?", picked up a socket-wrench and closed the garage door. And that was that. I couldn't believe I actually put up with someone like that for so long. Glad it's over.

I would do the same thing if she pulled the "it's the bike or me" crap too.

Now it's just me, and my soon-to-be adopted puppy. (and I'm glad.) Drama = Stress........and bills give me enough stress as it is.

Take it from a guy who is probably much older than you with an addiction to motorcycling that goes way back... It should always be the bike. Girls that "make" you sell your bike, will "make" you do many more things down the road. You can sell the bike to make her happy, but thats only a start... dont get controlled by anyone, keep your passion. Find a woman that respects your ride, and your desire to ride.

I agree with all the comments.. so far. But how many are married and have children. I think down the road if/when that happens it changes. That's what has happened to a lot of my friends. I'm keeping my bike. No doubt there. And I'm not married/NC.

That's why I married my wife............she had her own bike when we met!!!  Now I get two bikes. LOL. 

any woman who forces such a decision is not a woman, she is nothing more then a child with such a behavior. As others have said over time she will demand you to do other things as well..... she will lose respect towards you and walk all over you when ever she wants.

So lose the chick, and find a new one.      

Married with 3 kids. My wife bought my Aprilia for me and puts up with my stable of 8 bikes and track day addiction. If your chick is not supportive, it ain't gonna end up pretty......

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ORIGINAL: WhiteDealershipRice

If she ever get's to the point of telling you "Its the bike or me" Just let her know that she is cheapening the relationship to use it as a bargaining chip to get you to do what she wants you to do. And that you tought your relationship was worth more than that.

If she really loves you she wouldn't give you an ultimatum over something as (relatively) frivolous as that.  

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I have a really bad habit of calling the chicks bluff any time any kind of an ultimatum is thrown out there. Problem being for them is, once they realize they F'd up, they usually change their tune and appoligize, at which time I'm already telling them too late. If you were an adult, or cared the least little bit about the relationship you wouldn't put me in this situation, go find someone else to control and change into the person you think they shoudl be instead of who they are.
 


huh huh huh ... geeze I'm a lil out'a breath

I've purchased two bikes since I met my girlfriend (now fiance').  I got the first one but implied that my next major purchase would be for her which ended that issue.  Then I got her the ring and a few months later I bought the other bike.  She was a little irritated about that but what was she going to say after I spent so much on her.  I'm selling the CBR in the spring  but only to get the new RR.  No one is going to tell me what to do with my bikes.

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ORIGINAL: deedub

Man, this brings back memmories.  Sorry man, hang in there.  Lucky for me my girlfriend loves my bike.  She isn't interested in riding on it with me, she just likes it because I like it so much.

same here

I've seen this happen to two of my friends right before gettin married.  One got married in the summer, his bratty wife won't let him get one, the other is getting married next year but has been mandated not to buy a motorcycle, although he's been "given the green light" on a Z06.  I really feel bad for them both because I know they are both being controlled in the matter and it will eventually lead to being more controlled.  But hey, they asked for it.

If any girl tells me it's her or the bike, you'll see her bounce on the curb like Dino at the end of the Flintstones.

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ORIGINAL: gipsy75

For a girl's view...I have to agree that as much as concern for your safety is understood, making you choose isn't right.  It's healthy to have your own hobbies.  Ideally she'll appreciate and maybe wanna ride herself... If she does not and continues to give you an ultimatum, might be time to find someone that will love you for you, or maybe even someone that loves riding already!

 
would have to agree. just for your safety... in the long run if you have a family and you still ride, that's putting a huge aspect of the family in risk.... but since she's your girlfriend... she shouldn't make you choose !!! hahahaha gotta find a girl that understands your needs :D goodluck!

I showed her these responses. She thinks everyone is biased on here. Anyway, it worked. I'm running the show again.

Thx

Y'all should have seen my buddy's fiance tonight. She just about shot fire out of her mouth when my he mentioned riding again in the spring. He recently went down and has not fixed his bike yet. I would have said something, but she was about ready to murder him herself for even suggesting that. I didn't bother saying anything cause I didn't feel like taking her on with everyone in the room. I felt bad for him because I couldn't provide support at the time.

It's all about money. You have kids, you crash and die on the bike, who pays for the kids? Simple math. Mystery solved.

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ORIGINAL: zorgen

It's all about money. You have kids, you crash and die on the bike, who pays for the kids? Simple math. Mystery solved.

You'd better make sure that if you are a family person and ride you have Aflac and a life insurance policy. The policy had better provide for your offspring all the way through college and for your significant other. It's consideration for those you love.